Spock vs. McCoy: Handling Emotions Before They Dominate You
Spock: “I need your advice.”
McCoy: “Then I need a drink.”
Spock: “I do not understand your reasoning.”
McCoy: “You need advice from me? You must be kidding.”
Spock: “I do not joke, Doctor.”
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“You’re so stupid. You can’t do anything right. Things work for everyone else, but not you. You may as well give up. You’ll never succeed. You’ll never amount to anything.”
Such insults! If you heard someone getting chewed out like this, you’d probably become incensed. What is wrong with that angry person? No one deserves to be treated that way.
But what if those were your words pointed at yourself?
Many people mentally berate themselves when something bad happens. They think it’s normal to listen to their own internal diatribe over and over and over. They don’t realize that much of what they tell themselves isn’t even true.
The way to get off this mental merry-go-round is to Dispute your unrealistic beliefs about the bad event. Then consider the Energization, i.e. how you feel after challenging your beliefs. These are the next steps in the ABC Model.
